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Many people think that being friendly is innate. But it’s a misconception In reality, being sympathetic is something that depends only on you. Sympathy is ultimately a matter of emotional intelligence.
There was research studied the key behaviors that make emotionally intelligent people, exceptionally friendly beings.
Here are these behaviors:
1. They ask questions
The biggest mistake people make when listening to others is to think about what they are going to say or how these words will affect them. This attitude means that most of the time we don’t really listen to what the other person is telling us. The words resonate strongly and clearly but the meaning is lost and evaporates. In order to avoid this kind of decoy, just ask a lot of questions. People like to know that you are listening to them. Just asking a question makes the other person feel that not only do you listen to him but you also care about what he says. You will be surprised at the respect and recognition that others show you when you ask a lot of questions.
2. They turn off their phones
A message on your phone or a quick glance at it almost wipes out a conversation. When you engage in a subject, devote all your energy to this conversation. When you immerse yourself in these discussions, you will notice that they are ultimately highly pleasant and effective.
3. They are authentic
In order to be sympathetic, it is essential to be honest and sincere. Nobody likes false beings. Everyone is attracted to authentic people because it is obvious that we can trust them. It is difficult to appreciate someone when you do not really know who they are and what they really feel. Friendly people know each other and have enough confidence to feel good about themselves. By focusing on what makes you happy as an individual, you become a much more interesting person than if you make choices based on the tastes of others.
4. They don’t judge
If you want to be a friendly person, you have to be open-minded because it makes you interesting and accessible to others. No one wants to have a conversation with someone who has a strong opinion and is unwilling to listen to others. In the professional sphere, open-mindedness is also essential because it provides access to new ideas and mutual aid. In order to overcome preconceived ideas and hasty judgments, you need to see the world through the eyes of others. This does not require you to believe in what they believe or tolerate any behavior but it just means that you stop judging others for a period long enough to understand their true motivations.
5. They do not seek the attention of others
People are generally averse to those who desperately seek the attention of others. In order to be sympathetic, you don’t need to develop an outgoing personality. To win people’s sympathy, you just need to be friendly and caring. When you express yourself in a friendly, confident, and precise manner, you will realize that people are much more attentive than if you try to show them your importance. Being attentive rather than constantly seeking attention is proof of your humility and recognition, two adjectives that are closely linked to cordiality and politeness.
6. They are consistent
When you are not consistent, you are ultimately unfriendly. When people get close to you, they like to know who they are dealing with and what to expect. In order to be consistent, you need to be credible and you need to make sure that even when your mood fluctuates, it will have no effect on how you treat others.
7. They use body language
Being aware of your gestures, your expressions and the tone of your voice will attract people like ants at a picnic. Using an enthusiastic tone, uncrossing your arms, maintaining eye contact, and leaning toward the speaker are all forms of body language that emotionally intelligent people use to be sympathetic to others. Positive body language can make all the difference during a conversation.
8. They transmit a strong first impression to others
Research shows that people decide whether or not they like you in the first eight seconds of the encounter. Thereafter, they spend the rest of the conversation finding evidence for their initial reaction. It might sound manipulative but you can use that time to gain the affection of others. First strong impressions are closely linked to positive body language. Correct posture, a firm handshake, a smile, open shoulders towards the person are all attitudes that will leave others with a strong first impression of you.
9. They are addressed to others by name
Your name is an essential part of your identity and when others use it to speak to you, the feeling is very pleasant. Exceptionally friendly people make sure to always remember and recall by their name when meeting them. Do not limit yourself to using the name of others only when you greet it. Research shows that people immediately feel valued when the person they talk to addresses them by name.
10. They smile
Smile is the continuation of positive body language. If you want people to like you, smile during the conversation, it will make them feel comfortable by your side.
11. They know when to open up to others
Be careful when sharing personal issues with others. Do not confide too quickly about your problems as this could make someone appear complaining. Exceptionally friendly people are able to determine the right time to open up to others.
12. They know when they can touch each other
When you touch someone during a conversation, it releases oxytocin into the brain, a neurotransmitter associated with confidence and a host of other positive feelings. A simple push on the shoulder or forearm, a hug, a friendly handshake is all you need to release oxytocin. Be careful because inappropriate touching could have the opposite effect. Human relationships are based on words but also on reciprocal feelings of a general nature. Touching someone appropriately is a great way to show that you are caring.
13. They maintain a certain balance between passion and pleasure
People are attracted to other people when they are passionate. However, passionate people risk being too serious or indifferent because they are often completely absorbed in their work. Friendly people maintain a healthy balance between passion and the ability to have fun activities. They focus on social relationships and feel that these moments are important. They place a lot of importance on meaningful interactions with others. They remember what you said to them last week, which shows that you are just as important as their work and their passion.
14. They promote harmony
Exceptionally friendly people communicate with great ease and promote harmony within the professional and social sphere. They strive to bring out the best in all those around them and experience pleasure.